Originally Posted By: cutterbug
I have chosen the path that if the WAS wants to live that life. Then WAS goes and lives it. Win Win. You get to heal, learn and improve yourself. WAS gets the OP and OP gets the WAS.


There is that, too. You can decide if you want to let your spouse come back if the relationship with the OP falls apart. (Which is what happened with my parents, actually.)

My point was that letting your spouse run away to the OP isn't necessarily a bad thing.

Me: 44, Wife: 39
M: 17 years T: 20 years
Bomb on 08/25/09
1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

"Every day is another chance to get it right."