"Today's obscenity-filled text rant from my WAW included a common refrain: "You're making it so easy for me not to love you anymore!! I can't wait for this to be over!!!""
Eegads. coming from someone who did what she did then dragged you to the lawyers office on your birthday, poop.
you'll get alot of differing opionons on this board, but i see nothing wrong with taking the next 30 - 45 days off from your marriage and cut off initiating communication with her. Your children are old enough that you donot have to be around her when you have them and you arent required that she supervise your parenting time. Maybe she needs to finally learn what a facebook affair does to a marriage.
Her obscenity-filled rant and arguments in the doorway sounds like she still sees you as her punching bag. I dont believe this is a positive direction towards reconcillation nor a very good attempt at co-parenting. If you are OK with that either the virtual 'thwhack' does nothing or you like 'em in some weird virtual way. I would personally say, "Look you cheated on me and you still feel you can treat me like crap when I see my kids. You really need to take some time to think about how to treat other people. In the meantime maybe your mama can meet me in the police parking lot when we exchange the children. I am done." But that is me. I dont like to get punched.
You have a whole life ahead of you and broken hearts are easily mended and reconcillation is possible, but not through interactions with her right now. Some people need to learn the hard way the ramifications of their actions. And she needs to learn what she did was not appropriate and hurtful.
Does it matter if you push her into the arms of the OM? Probably not, doubtful his marriage will be over anytime soon. His wife is a mess, he probably doesnt see paying alimony and child support as big WooHoo, he needs to deal with his guilt and family problems, let your wife go and she will become needy and pressuring on him, and he will dump her. They almost always do.
