futureunknown. While an affair is going on what are you doing in the marriage? Seriously? Remove yourself from it. Set the boundary and enforce it. Your choice is to be in a marriage with only the two of you. Her choice is accept this or leave. Not both. Respect yourself. You made your mistakes. Let her go make her mistakes.
Reread this line
Stop believing you are entitled to something, entitlement breeds resentment and that will lead you down a path of anger & disappointment and poor results.
Remember this applies to the both of you. It applies to everyone.
I find the biggest mistake the LBS makes is that they get so rapped up in their hurt feelings that they think they are the only person entitled to be hurt. And they do what ever they can to take on more and more hurt. We become a Martyr for our WAS. Feeling that we need to take their hurt as well since were such good LBS's and thats what a good LBS does. I read it over and over in these stiches. It becomes a way of life. Some of us even think that this our entitlment and trophey to carry around. Some use it as a weapon, attacking with guilt and hurt.
CAKE EATING is ENTITLEMENT.
And I just completely lost my train of thought....
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