Of course she still isn't listening to what God wants and continues contact with the OM daily via email and lunches. I have no control over this, but my boundaries are being respected, so there is little I can do in this area. I know the OM is putting pressure on her to take the relationship further. Perhaps he is getting impatient.
Use this in your favor. You need your wife to respect you. You want the OM pressuring her. You want to start feeling better. So let's restate the boundary, it's about her behavior that needs to change.
"Wife, when you spend time and energy with another man I feel disrespected. If you continue to place another man as a higher priority than me then I will decide which path our marriage goes."
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so there is little I can do in this area
Are you paying for her cell phone, internet, lunches?
Does the OM's wife know what's going on?
Are you going out for yourself and being mysterious?
Are you connecting with old friends?
Don't enable any of this behavior. Guilt isn't going to change your wife, your actions she will notice.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
