I think I'm doing a great job of detaching -- but I'm prepared for 2x4s! So swing away...
I've noticed when my WAW gets upset, she grabs her cell, runs into her room (at her parents house), and shuts the door.
She told me -- and separately the OM and his mom told me -- 3 weeks ago that the A was over and that contact had broken off. But since my WAW has lost all her friends in town over the SA (and how cruel it is to our 3 toddlers) I can't imagine who there is left for her to call but the OM.
OM promised me when I called him that it was over, because he and his LBW we're trying to salvage THEIR M. Now I'm wondering if I should call him again to check up like I said I might.
I've detached, GAL'd and act like life is great when I'm around my WAW. But is there a fine line to this? I want to be someone my WAW can rely on and turn to. But I guess her shame, guilt and anger are blocking it.
So if I'm detaching by the book, is that leaving the OM as the only person she can talk to???
Last nite at her parents house, she suggested I stick around to read a bedtime story to our 23mo twins. Afterwards, for the first time in two months, she walked me to the door w/o an argument, and asked if I'd forgotten anything, like she didn't want me to leave. I politely said no, c-ya, and left. That felt great! But I'd give anything for us to really talk.
