I still follow your thread, your sitch is so much like mine. I am bummed that you got to this point. I really though things were going to turn around for you. Well its not over yet. I am thinking that I am going to head down the same patch you are.
Something occurred to me. You said something about a shock factor, the shock of going through the process may shock you wife into a decision. That decision could be that she does not want a divorce, that she actually does want to work it out. I believe this with your wife based on the little things she does.
Now I was thinking, for the shock factor to have the most effect would it be better to go right in and file no bs, no talking, just file?
I am thinking that if you walk her through it step by step like you are doing there will be no shock factor at all and she will go with it. seem’s like you are making it easy for her.
The story about the frog comes to mind.
If you put a frog in a pot full of water and turn the burner on he will boil to death.
If you put a frog into boiling water he will jump out.
I feel like by walking her though this you are putting her in the pot full of water and turning the burner on.
