I'm really worried now that the MC pushed the R talk and he got upset and annoyed and is now pulling back again even though I was not a part of it whatsoever. I know the MC won't tell me what he said, but I can't help but worry that it didn't go well and that is the reason for his grumpiness.
...which brings us back to "you can't be responsible for his emotional state"! Seriously! You are still really emotionally entangled.
He is the one doing this to himself; not you, not your kids, not the MC.
Originally Posted By: britt54
He also said he wanted to come over tonight and see the kids for a while before he goes back to work tomorrow. Should I leave when he gets here? Or tell him no, that if he wants to see the kids he hast to pick them up and take them elsewhere? I just don't want to be mean.
Not your problem. You're supposed to have a life now, right? He needs to work himself into your routine.
You're talking a good game, but he still calls the shots.
Originally Posted By: britt54
Our house is filled with toys, and things to do, and I feel its a good place for them to spend time together. So maybe I should leave for a few hours. ???
This is up to you, but I'm getting to be in agreement with CityGirl; he shouldn't be allowed to drop in whenever he wants and throw your plans out of whack.
I'd say "Sure, you can come over. So-and-so wanted to grab dinner, so I'll leave you guys to do what you want for a couple of hours."
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
