Who is this person?

[Day by Day]

After I sent H the email saying basically most of what you said Hope, he stayed quiet about that. I also responded with an offer for him to take the kids to his place during the week or to rework the visitation schedule. It really seemed like he wanted to show off that he has his own place. Whatever.

He stayed with the kids in the house last night while I was out and ate the dinner I prepared. No thanks though and no comment that he left the house. He left a check for the vet bill. So, I emailed him a thanks this morning. He responded no problem and glad he could help. Seems like he's really trying to be distant in his words. I still sense his anger. He said he wants the kids during the week too. That's fine.

I'm really not sure how to "reel him in". I'm trying to be lovingly detached. I've been GAL and working on myself with counseling and prayer and self-help books. I'm concentrating on myself, but don't know if should do anything else? Should I be trying to gently reel him in? We do have counseling scheduled for next week. I feel like I'm ignoring him.

I feel like I'm on a tightrope with the lovingly detaching. So hard to balance giving up with pursuing and in the middle is detachment. Lean too far one way and I'm wanting to be over this. Lean too far the other and I get hurt by pursuing. <sigh>

I've accepted that he isn't the man I married anymore. I don't like this new person and don't find him attractive.