I have heard more whining and BS from my H than I thought possible from a "grown man". I listened to it for over a year and finally told him that my best suggestion was to use his support system (which no longer included me) and his how desire to work through whatever it is he needed to work through. So far he has not done one darn thing. WAS rarely think of the consequences of bomb dropping, an affair or the legal proceedings. Any feeling or emotion she has is hers to deal with on her own.
And yes, if your W wants out then she MOVES OUT. No questions asked, that is how it will be. Your goal is to have as little disruption to your life as possible during this process.
The WAS tends to think the LBS will "get on board" and do just as they want. When you are not included in the decision to end a marriage then the WAS is on their own and that includes finding new housing.
