You are getting hung up on sole vs joint. These are just words that really mean nothing. It is the schedule that matters. I know of men with joint custody who have very little contact with the kids and men where the xW has sole custody where they have liberal time with the kids (I am in that group).
The last thing she should want is for the judge to decide. At least that is what her lawyer should be telling her. You can never predict what may happen in court. If she is serious about being a good mom then she may be receptive to agreeing to a fair custody schedule. If she needs to have the "sole" custody designation, so be it; you are going to pay her anyway. But, since she seems on the take no prisoners mindset, out to punish you by taking the kids away, she may push you to trial. Hopefully her lawyers will talk some sense into her.
Stay the course Frank. Work the schedule. That is all that is important. And you WILL see your children Frank, so no more negative thoughts about that.
