That sounds more like progress to me. If your therapist is good, getting her into a place where you can both talk to someone who isn't angry or upset (and at whom she isn't really angry or upset) sounds like an ideal situation to me.
I wouldn't know firsthand; I never talked my wife into going to a therapist either for her or for us, even though she saw what a difference the family counseling we did for adoption preservation made with our kids. So you're way ahead of me on this one, if that makes you feel any better about it.
