Lots to think about here, I agree with Gucci. Thinking back my H came half way across the country to be with me once he found out I'd been out platonically with his friend and that was before we were M. Perhaps we are acting like the WS in that we only want our H back cos they've moved on. Time to move on ourselves and see how it plays out?
I've got a new mantra, the 3 Ds - Dignity (in my actions and dealing with others, not only my H), Detachment (which involves loving detachment, GAL stuff), Determination (the resolve to carry through what I feel needs to be done, when it needs to be done without fear).
Friends who cheat on you and then try and act the smarmy 'let's be friends' do you need them? Civil and courteous is enough for me too.
