It's too hard sometimes

[TooLateForMe]

Gina B is right: at this point, your kids need someone who will crawl through hell to take care of them and be there for them 100%, and it's pretty clear that your wife isn't going to do it.

She's always been the financial rock. Lately things have been tough. I'm not excusing her spending. She took the WAW thing a little far financially. She bit off more than she could chew by ending the R and diving into her fun, new life w/out me. Too much, too soon. I may not have contributed financially, but I did a lot that she now has to do. She spread herself thin and w/out me picking up kids, cooking, laundry, etc.

You might want to start thinking of yourself as a single father, and work your way up from there.

(Look at it this way; this incident will probably go a long way towards ensuring that the eventual custody battle ends up in your favor.)

I'm not the biological father. I came in when the oldest D was 4, youngest 1. Even though I'm dad, I have no rights at all. During the first D, I made an offhand comment about how she had no right to ask for child support. To her, this now means I WON'T provide any at all. This, despite my telling her now that she should expect and demand I give what I can when I can.

Gina is also right in that you should tap every charitable organization and government service you can -- they exist to help people like you.

I wasn't always a total loser, but we let things get too tight.

I tried to get a job, but didn't settle for the low-end crap jobs I was "overqualified" for. She let me think that was okay for a long time but when she finally got sick of it I reacted like a jerk and... well it only got worse from there.

There's a place in Boulder called Echo House. It's a temporary place for families. Hopefully, it doesn't get to that point, but there are options we've talked about.