I think this is exactly where both GIMA and I are.
I am wondering how many other people are in this sort of situation. I would characterize it as a "Stalled WAS" The spouse walked away emotionally/psychologically, but for one reason or another never left and are themselves stuck in the status quot.
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I am really not sure how to put strings on what I would really want, which is "be open to the M and the R".
Thinker/GIMA - I am in the same boat. W has been emotionally checked out and "Divorced in Spirit" for 12 months now, but for whatever reason (the kids, actually) she won't go. I would accept what Thinker said above as my 'strings' as well - just be open to the possibility of M working out.
ME/XW:47 S21, D19, S15, S14 M:21 T:26 W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12 W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline
