For those with a WAS...How do you cope?

[bluerain]

Hi Courtney,
How do you think that H would react if you just took him and his "contributions" toward taking care of DD out of the picture?

I had been separated for about 18 months when I decided that I was done. He had an A, and is on the other side of the country, so I didnt see him for about 13 of those months. Then when I did, I realized that I had done some great things with my life, I had fabulous friends, and a definite direction that I wanted to take. And he really hadnt changed anything, except for the A, OW dumped him (after he caught her with another man!). But he still drank too much, was petty, yelled at my dogs. I realized that he kind of sucked! I tried a lot to stand for my M, and I feel good about how I left it. But it is time to get on with my life.

I think that it is hilarious that dd was a chicken for Halloween! Your H missed out this time! I hope that eventually he realizes what hes losing playing these games. Some people on here will encourage you to be indefinately patient, but honestly, I just cant recommend that. At some point, you have to admit that there is a bright, loving relationship in your future, and you are just stagnating.

I dont know, probably not the best DBing advice... But IMO, this is a part of detaching.