Am I at this stage?

[TrentC]

Well, I think its both. He likes how I cut his hair and it saves money. He asked me to cut it the first week we separated and I straight out said no. But now since all this progression in the last few weeks, he decided to ask me again. I said Ya, sure.

Sounds good to me. At some point, you have to take a chance, and this seems like a small one.

Well that was two hours ago and he hasn't responded. I don't know if he's feeding me some of my medicine by not answering me immediately or what. When he originally text me, I didn't answer right away. So who knows.

He may very well by trying some of the same tricks. But look at it this way: you know why you're going dark on him, so when he does the same to you, you don't have to react the same way. If he calls back and says "sorry, I was busy", just chirp back "that's OK, no problem."

He also went to MC for the first time since the split today. He didn't tell me though. The only reason I knew was cause our MC told me. I thought he would have mentioned it but he didn't. So I can't even really ask how it went?

Well, the MC did tell you about it. So at least if you H mentions it, you can say that you knew, but that you were respecting his privacy by not asking.

Hmmm? Not sure what to think about it. Obviously I'm happy he even went. I feel it shows he is still somewhat interested in working on things, but at the same time maybe when the MC called to check on him, he felt obliged to go and felt bad saying no to the MC. So maybe he went not really wanting to. Who knows. I guess only time will tell. Had a good day doing my own thing. Just waiting for him to bring the kids back now. So we'll see how tonight goes?

...yeah, but there you go again with the mind reading. You had to work for a reason why he may have gone, but not wanted to go. That's the stuff that's going to drive you batty.

I would take it for the win that it is (whether he "wanted to" or not, he did go) but not attached any significance to it otherwise. If he wants to tell you about it, he will.