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[awest1217]

I agree, but I know what would get to him more is if I just don't say anything about it. I am sure at some point he will text me and say he is sorry for being so "irresponsible" and come up with some excuse. I am just going to say "I understand" and move on because he is the one missing out. However, it broke my son's heart. All night he kept looking out the window or when he heard any noises would say "Daddy come over" I would have to say no honey daddy is not coming over. Later S just kept giving me hugs and kisses more than normal.

Oh well...H has one person who still trusts him...S...and if he keeps acting like this soon S won't trust him either. It is H's loss. This just sucks because I have never seen him totally dismiss S like that. Of course it is the first time S was able to call and handle a conversation with H about going to see him, but still, I don't ever want to deal with this again.

My mentors sent me a message on facebook and said I need to stop expecting anything of H. Don't expect anything at all because that will help lift a huge burden from me and then I can focus on S, God, and loving H (without expectations or much contact) until he chooses to do what is right. I don't expect anything from H when it comes to me. I think I would die if he said "I love you" or kissed me, but it is hard to let go of the expectations of being a father, but now I know I have to let those go as well.

If you can't tell it is now 5 hours and still nothing...