OK.... Puppy I hear you that I am not ready. I know you are right. I am looking for some magic bullet to make my anxiety go away and if I find those answers that could make it much worse. So the question then is.... am I strong enough/ready to set the boundaries you are suggesting? Sometimes I think yes, and some days I still crumble from the stress of it all.
So, do I just keep "detaching"? You are saying that word gets thrown around too much. I re-read the original posts on Coach's detachment thread to remind myself what it really means. I guess I am not there yet. This is harder than I could have imagined.
About the OP - OK I hear all of you! lol I pretty much knew that I would get that answer but I needed to hear the reasons. I had not thought at all about the amount of importance that would give her. That makes so much sense! You people who've been here awhile are so smart! :-) Of course, she needs to be insignificant.... not worth my time!
Creating drama by DBing... now that's a concept. Thanks for that idea Kara. Hmmmmmm..... I have been thinking more about how to "act like" the WAS but with keeping my values intact (i.e. no OP). Still working on that one... (so against my nature but I guess that is why they are called 180's right?)
