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[courageous wife]

I guess I was just trying to show him, because I think I didn't do that very well, that I love him and how nice things could be at our home. I had really slacked off on things as I really feel that I am just now getting my energy level back to where it was pre-cancer! The first time he left, he was angry and distant but this time he is acting differently. I am confused because he does tell me he loves me (ok, after I said it). He will still once in awhile mention a future plan. Is it possible to love really 2 people at the same time? She is early 4o's(he says), no children, not M, has had stomach stapling surgery (so he assures me she is not any prettier than I and she's not, I saw the pic). I know that she is an outlet as there are no fighting kids, no money issues or problems at home. I have been trying hard to lose weight (about 20bls now) and walking and getting into shape for me. I do feel better about myself but it does hurt that everyone around me is noticing except him. Do I do what the DB book says and hang in there a little longer but back off on doing all the nice things I've been doing or is it time to introduce the last resort technique?