Sad To Be Back 4 Years After The Bust

[sandycay]

ok.. read the whole thing and just have to say a few things from a chick-a-dee

Your wife is full of sh*t and you must stop eating from that plate.... My H has played around with me when I was sleeping and maybe even intoxicated a time or two. One time early on in our marriage... I told him the next day that I had been really drunk and didn't like that... you know what he just thought I was into it, he didn't know (like you didn't know she was on drugs) that I was as intoxicated as I was. She feels perfectly safe with you or she wouldn't have been sleeping NAKED in the bed with you afterwards. These are her excuses to beat you up and beat you down.

Guess what sometimes I get in bed and play with my H while he is sleeping and sometimes he wakes up and sometimes he doesn't so I stop.

Oh, and good luck making a criminal issues out of it... kinda hard to prove your so frightend and scared when you move back and sleep in the same bed NAKED with your husband and she's gonna file a report months later ... good luck with that one.

Leave your wife alone for now.... your torturing yourself with all these self depreciating thoughts and it is coming thru.

BTW, most people that keep there new apartments hidden are having an affair.... we didn't know where H was living for a few months. They don't want you snooping.

As far as the vacation, I hear what you are saying but if you think day to day lives are tough...you just wait..this has disaster written all over it.

So from this chick-a-dee to you....

make some changes fast... get out more
ask you C about medication... you need some for anxiety or depression or maybe they can give you something to make you zip your lip. (That was a joke)

Frankly, my saved marriage is on the rocks right now, with the current revelation that he just doens't love me anymore after all the chit I have been thru with him it's exhausting and I make myself get up and workout, run or something everyday. There is no options om this.... do I miss out on time with my kids cause of this.... yes because all though I am home everyday and could go to the gym.... I wait till the evening 2-3 nights a week and go when H is home. Does he wonder if I am really at the gym ... probably not but it's not something i normally do so it's different.

DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT

Stop talking about doing it and do it

JUST DO IT

Go out to a coffee shop... buy a paper and read it real slow there...Give yourself some space.

Now, I am gonna say this and it won't sound nice coming from a nice girl like me but put your big boy underwear on and act like a man. Even if you don't feel like it, act like it

Your wife has been bullying you to make you feel like sh*t about yourself ... so you've done that for awhile ...NOW STOP IT.