Something else.... I think I know the answer to this but am putting it out there anyway... just because I have no where else to process this stuff and no one else to process it with (so thanks!)
Is there ever any purpose to contact with OP?
No.
OP's spouse, yes, but not OP. It elevates them in importance (think some rag-tag terrorist, negotiating directly with the President of the United States), you don't know if you'll be able to control yourself, the two of them will have a good laugh at your expense, and you'll most likely take what she tells you as some combination of truth and useful information, which it is neither.
Those are just a few, right off the top of my head.
