It's too hard sometimes

[TrentC]

Gina B is right: at this point, your kids need someone who will crawl through hell to take care of them and be there for them 100%, and it's pretty clear that your wife isn't going to do it. This is going to be hard, especially with what you are dealing with internally. But I think your kids are worth it, and down the road they will remember you for what you do right now.

You might want to start thinking of yourself as a single father, and work your way up from there. Consider your wife effectively dead, as far as visitation and financial support goes.

(Look at it this way; this incident will probably go a long way towards ensuring that the eventual custody battle ends up in your favor.)

Gina is also right in that you should tap every charitable organization and government service you can -- they exist to help people like you.

This is an extremely hard time to raise a family right now, and there should be no shame in taking assistance when it is offered; you can always pay it forward once you get back on your feet.