Still can't decide if I should be encouraging them to call Dad.
Maybe it's just me, but I wouldn't.
At some point your H will grow up and want to take his responsibility seriously; otherwise, your kids will want to reach out to their father when they are ready to.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement