It's too hard sometimes

[ginab1966]

Ok...if some people want to stone me for this post, go ahead but these are my thoughts, for what it's worth.

Yes, your W was extrememly irresponsbile to go buy new clothes, costumes, etc when there were bills that had to be paid. Not smart on her part. You have no job currently and helped build the debt that has you both broke in the first place. To me, absolutely NONE of that matters. Who did what and how you got there means NOTHING. What does matter is that there are children (not sure how old they are and it doesn't matter) that are in a house with no gas and no power.

IF this were me....and it was my child who was in a house with no gas or power and about to be evicted, I wouldn't care if I had to pawn everything I owned and sleep under a tree in the freezing rain...I would do it. Children should NEVER be the ones to suffer for their parents irresponsibilties.

It almost seems to me like your choices that you've thought of only are ones that end up with you as a family in the end. It shouldn't matter if the only result in this is that you NEVER end up together.....your childrens safety and protection should be what comes first. I know you say that you have no money. Well, how were you going to get to your parents house? However that money was going to get to you, can you use it to turn on the utilities? Do you have anything to pawn? Can just the kids come with you for awhile? I know none of this is easy and your head is spinning and I do believe you when you say you want to help but helping your childre isn't something you "do when you can". You just do it..always and forever. Even if it's calling every charitable organization possible. Also, in my state they cant shut off utilities if there are children in the home. It's not safe and the will work with you.

You can do this...you can help them and yourself at the same time. You will because you have to. I believe you and in you. No one can write the words you do and not be a decent human being. You are strong....you are still alive...you have it within you to help in some way..any way.

I will say prayers for you and DD's. Keep the faith.

Peace,

Gina B