I understand the analogy, but the problem for me is that I am not confined, I choose to be. I do want this marraige to work, but if it doesn't, I am not going to die. I am not going to disappear. I will move on.
I do want it to work, but she doesn't. She doesn't appear to be any closer to wanting it to work and I am really at the end of my rope.
We have an appt on Thursday at 4:00 with the C. I will know more then. Once I do,m I can make my next decision. If she just wants out, then she should just do it.
Again, please know I don't express my feelings like this to her and I won't in C either. I am venting here. I am PO'd because, while I know I made mistakes, she doesn't think she did. She's complaining about being in Limbo, but it is her own decision to be here.
