Gotta Keep Trying 2

[Thinker]

I remember reading somewhere a strong LRT. Sitting down and saying "I prefer that the marriage work. But you’re right, it’s not possible and this current situation is into working for either of us. So I’ll help you find a place to live and help you move out.”

With that, you are saying that you prefer the marriage to work, while also sending the message that you will take the responsibility for what happens if you did try to make the marriage work because that’s your decision. But her decision is to leave, so she will be responsible for the consequences of that decision.

I think it is time to seriously consider this LRT.

I think this is exactly where both GIMA and I are.

I am wondering how many other people are in this sort of situation. I would characterize it as a "Stalled WAS" The spouse walked away emotionally/psychologically, but for one reason or another never left and are themselves stuck in the status quot.

I also remember reading something called "Beyond LRT" or "After the Last Resort" or something similar that talks about "If LRT isn't working and your spouse is not actively filing for D and is also not making moves to reconcile, consider filing yourself" -- but now I can't seem to find the reference anywhere. Someone chime in if you know where it is.