I'm doing okay. W moved the rest of her stuff this morning. Our S is at her apt right now but they're coming over soon so we can take him trick or treating. I'm heading to a Halloween party later tonight...really trying to stay busy. And I already made plans for next Saturday night.
My family is being very supportive & my mom is already trying to set me up on dates. I had to tell her I'm not ready yet.
I'm not showing any signs of weakness to my W. I wouldn't say I'm being especially friendly...but I am being strong. No breaking down...no R talk. So far, I'm handling it better than I thought I would.
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
Not doing very well right now. I had our S all day since it's my b-day. Just had to drop him off at W's house & I won't see him again until Wednesday. I cried most of the way home & now I'm just angry.
Last edited by etrain; 11/02/0912:57 AM.
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
Hey etrain read your post and I feel for you. Know that there are people out there that care. Im know how you feel. Yesterday I had to miss my daughters first halloween and when I spoke to my son on the phone. He said " I love you daddy Happy Halloween" I was contained during our phone call as soon as hung up I creid like a baby. I cant believe that Im going thru this but I know in the end I'll be better for it.Hang tuff friend..
Me 39 W 33 Married 7yrs Together 10 2 children 3 and 1 Says"She's moving on with her life"
Ugh. Waking up all alone in my house this morning was awful. I don't know how I'll ever get used to this.
And I don't know if W & I are doing the "visits" with our son that we agreed to. When I dropped S off last night, W told him he'd see me on Wednesday (I get him Wed-Sat). She either forgot about our "visits" or doesn't want to do them. I honestly don't want to call her about it. I don't want to contact her at all. But I would like to see my S this evening.
This whole thing sucks.
Last edited by etrain; 11/02/0901:25 PM.
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
Was there a time set for visitations? If so, I don't think a call to confirm it would be necessary. Just show up at the agreed time. The next time she pulls a "sneaky" like she did with S by telling him he would see you Wednesday.....you need to call her out about it right right there on the spot....to keep from giving her all the power. Do you see how this one thing gives her power over you in the stitch? I know you probably are the type that doesn't like doing this and had rather keep your mouth closed, but she will continue to take advantage if you don't start out on the right foot.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Thanks sandi. We did not set up times for the visits. We just said we'd visit each other's places for an hour or so each day in the beginning to make our S's transition a little easier. I should have said something right then & there. Since I didn't, I'm wondering if I should email her about it now. She actually sent me an email a while ago...letting me know about some package deal our cable company is offering.
I'm trying to avoid contacting W at all but I suppose this is an exception since it pertains to our S.
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
My family is being very supportive & my mom is already trying to set me up on dates. I had to tell her I'm not ready yet.
MOMS KNOW BEST! she can probably read your wife like an open book and knows exactly how to win her back. listen to your mama.
Originally Posted By: etrain
We did not set up times for the visits. We just said we'd visit each other's places for an hour or so each day in the beginning to make our S's transition a little easier.
DUDE. This is your boy. go buy a nerf football and call your wife and say you are going to be there is 15 minutes i am taking junior to the park. we agreed upon this.
I went through the same thing today e. I dropped my son off at our half way point. Once I was out of her sight, I let loose with a good cry. It hard to say good bye to him. I won't see him until Friday, but to get past the sadness, I am focusing on Friday.
Me 44/W 32 S1 M8 Bomb 9/25/09 Separate houses (about 1 hour apart)
I had to tell her I'm not ready yet.