For those with a WAS...How do you cope?

[TrentC]

Regarding those early morning hours, no I don't have a back up plan. I suppose I could ask my mom, but I will be furious if I have to do that - DD is OUR responsibility. It's not like I enjoy leaving for work @ 4:30am, but I don't have a say in the matter. And nobody else should have to get up at the crack of dawn to help me out bc he doesn't feel doing it.

You're right, but think of this is a preview of what you're going to deal with if and when the D is final. One of you needs to be 100% committed to taking care of DD, and you can't count on him to be that person. If he walks out completely on you two, you need to have a Plan B.

But, nobody will step up and say anything to him. His family just treats him like a pathetic little baby - "Ohhhh, poor *, he's hurting. We really hope you both can work this out. blah, blah, blah..." How about somebody call him out already!!! Makes me sick!!!!

Then let them bear the brunt of that job. At some point they may start asking him what he's doing to work on the R. Or maybe they won't.

You have more important things to worry about, like yourself and DD.