Also laughing about your "Christmas Present" confusion. I have been talking about D all week with my W, and then on Saturday while we were hanging out with another couple, she tells me what she wants for Christmas. WTF?
Thinker, GIMA, fellas ~~~
What would be wrong with this:
W starts talking about Christmas presents and plans. You to W: Please do not make plans as if this Christmas will be our garden variety celebration. I want to stay married to you but your unwillingness to work on our M (won't go to MC, moved out of our bedroom, etc) indicates that we will divorce. Therefore, I don't need to know what your Christmas wish list is and I won't be sharing mine with you. I plan to shop for the kids on my own and I expect you will do the same. Maybe we can coordinate lists for them so we don't double up. But beyond that, no plans together. It's our current reality. Do you prefer to have the children Christmas day or Christmas Eve. I'm willing to negotiate on that."
Your wives are cake eating. I cannot imagine I would EVER, while Coach and I were in our bombed out world, expect him to do one thing for me - let alone hear what my Christmas list had on it. And I would have expected him to set me straight on that if I had.
Just thinking out loud. What do you think? Greek
Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08
