I have always hated the word excuse. One of my H’s favorite things to tell S, is that he didn’t want to hear excuses for certain behaviors, just explanations. Well unfortunately, those explanations, were only considered explanations IF S agreed with H about what he had done wrong. Otherwise they were excuses. And excuses are unacceptable.
Regardless of whether we agree with it or not, whether we call something an excuse or an explanation, or the third rock from the sun, it is what it is. It is the reason behind someone’s behavior. We can crucify them for it, and remain angry and become bitter, or we can accept it, even if we don’t understand or agree with it, and move ourselves into a better place emotionally. Up to you.
I simply won’t debate the validity of MLC because I have lived it. Just like the rest of us here.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
