Obviously if you ask the question you are leaning towards; this is NOT worth it.
Not true.
Kalni,
If you cannot forgive, then do not waste your time. That is the secret to Piecing. That is it.
Piecing is nothing more than believing just enough that he is for real this time.
Total honesty, including your fears and what he can do to assuage them.
Trust...but VERIFY, and he has to know you are going to check up on him and you have to.
When you are worried about something, you have to tell him.
He wants this, then he should be willing to jump through hoops. But in time, as long as he is trustworthy you are going to have to start removing some of those hoops.
Trust can be rebuilt as long as he wants to and you are willing.
It is and can be better than it ever was.
But if you cannot forgive, then do not waste your time...or his. If you forgive him and bring this up as ammo in a later fight...then you are in the wrong, and you haven't forgiven them.
Do this only if you are capable. Do this with all honesty, if he wants this then he will do his best to make you comfortable even at his own expense.
But you...you need to limit yourself as well. Not everyday is a day for a talk, or for question about the past. Sometimes you are going to give in on things, and sometimes you cannot. Sometimes they are going to fukc up, and you need to be willing to talk it out and not jump to conclusions.
Piecing as much as it suc ked was the best thing for building me and my wifes communication skill sthan anything before.
You need to decide if you can do this Kalni.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
