I know exactly how you are feeling. As you know, I am in exactly the same position. My W has emotionally divorced me and refuses to work on the M, but at the same time refuses to leave the stabilty, safety, comfort, etc of the M. This is the very definition of limboland.
So I empathize.
Also laughing about your "Christmas Present" confusion. I have been talking about D all week with my W, and then on Saturday while we were hanging out with another couple, she tells me what she wants for Christmas. WTF?
So I am right there with you.
The hardest thing is to keep yourself dealing with reality. One minute you are firmly dealing with reality - "I am already divorced, it just hasn't happened yet. I can and will handle it. Life will be rocky, but I have to get through it etc" and then when she does something like this it enables you to backslide back into the fantasy of a reconciliation.
Last edited by Thinker; 11/02/0906:44 PM.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
