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I think I have just saved myself.


Just? H E double hockey sticks Lady...most people don't even do that!

So give yourself a little more than a little credit there.

That is really all you can do.

Ok now for the stick:

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I really need to try and get into his head about why all of this has come up now.


That worked out so well in the past...didn't it? Trying to figure them out, what they were thinking?

Instead,

Ask, talk, commincate.

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What is different?


You.
Him.


Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis

Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans

Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK

TRUST THE PROCESS - Cadet