MY wife was so crushed with overwhelming despair, and confusion...ANY choice she actually made ANY decision no matter how bad, was a relief to her. She made bad choices compunded with more bad choices because she didn't see how to get out.
I can say the same about how my H has made poor choices and felt relieved just to make a choice(that's why he gave the atty a retainer and asked for a D in 5/09). My H flounders alot at this point in his crisis and when he's sick of feeling crappy he makes a choice of some sort, any choice-it does seem random..to feel like he's moving forward.
So J3B, did your wife describe what helped her come out, or what it felt like when she started seeing daylight?
M44 H46 T21 Married 16y D14 D12 Bomb 12/08(EA), (PA/Separation)1/09 to 5/09 Home/MC 5/09 to 12/09 Leaves 12/09 Files for Divorce Divorce final 6/30/10.
