As for ML - um...I'm not into it these days. Instead of feeling like it brings us closer, I feel like I'm being used. He gets what he wants and then walks out the door. It's not a good feeling. Besides, he's eating enough cake these days (doing what he wants, living the life of a bachelor, etc) - I'm not adding that as something else he gets. He has been saying some rather inappropriate (kind of vulgar) sexual things lately and it makes me quite mad! The other day when he made such a comment I just said something like, "Don't speak to me that way." Why in the hell does he think he can make rude comments like that? He needs to censor himself and learn to speak with some respect.
Good for you!
As for why he thinks he can make rude comments like that, it's one of two reasons:
1) He used to be able to do it and get away with it, but now you're standing up for yourself. (If so, congrats!) 2) He's used to cake-eating at the moment, which hopefully will come to an end soon now that you're starting to call him on it.
That would be a good boundary to set:
"I don't know why you've started talking trash to me, but I feel like I'm being disrespected. if it doesn't stop, then I don't want to be around you at all."
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
