GIMA,your W seems to be very concerned about appearances. I believe I remember you said that her family knows about what is going on, but she would continue the sleeping separately while they are there?
It can't be easy on you, but I believe we all have to grieve for losing our M, at least as they once were, just like we mourn for any other loss in our lives. You can't move on without addressing that part of the process.
BTW, I posted on my thread. Please take a look when you get a minute. Anyone else who cares to check it out as well. I need all the ideas and encouragement I can get at this point.
BIM
BIM M 39 / H 40 / S 9 / S 6 / T 20 / M 11
my sitch: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1828127#Post1828127