WAS seeing reality?

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I dont have much timebut I wanted to give a run down of what our talk was about.


There was some tension between us after the mediation and then the day after she called to tell me that I could not stay around the house later than 6pm on weekdays. This sparked something in me that had to be released.



So I called her and told her that I needed to come talk to her. I started the convo by asking her what about the mediation made her feel angry/defensive. Her answer was that she had made up her mind and she needed to have boundries and that we did nice things together with the kids because she wants divorce to be as normal as possible for them. This was a telling answer to me... she was sensing SOMETHING between us but she just cannot let it become reconciliation.


It took all the strength that I had but I let her go %100. I told her that I felt something the night that we went to the fall festival but that I could not keep trying for her anymore. I told her that I went on a date that night, I told her that I did not want to be married to her anymore. I told her that she is not the person that I married. I then told her that I knew all bout what she had been up to all summer with the married EA friend. Guess what? SHE LIED ~ no suprise at all but it was quite amazing that she would still lie even though it was obvious that I did know everything. Then she got mad and wanted to make me the bad guy for snooping but I reassured her that it did not matter- I was done. Then a while later she threw out in anger, "SO!! You went on a date!" I told her that I decided to date after months of wanting our marriage to work but at this point I do not want to get back together with a woman that lies to me.


In the coming weeks I will probably need some advice about my wife possibly lashing out in anger by taking my kid time away, keeping me away from the house, etc.