Gotta Keep Trying 2

[iwantittowork]

For some reason, yesterday the whole "I'm getting D'd" thing jumped up and bit me. Thought I had a pretty good handle on it. And I think I am managing well. Could just be one of those down days.

Hey GIMA, just let yourself accept that your going to have some down days, conversely you will have some not so down days. It's unreasonable to think your going to be happy through this. Your dead already right? Well, so is your Old MR (regardless of if you can save it or renew it in the future) and any loss comes with some grieving, and your going through a grieving process, so acknowledge and accept it.

Check the thoughts that brought you here as well, to those feelings, and see if you can change them up. I find the more down you get, the thoughts behind them are more pessimistic, IE, I'll never find someone else, things will never be good, the kids will never make it through.... Then, work to try and reverse those to temporary thoughts, the kids WILL make it through this, there IS someone else out there, (Even if someday it's my current W and MR in some other form)

You have been working on this already, so I know you can do this.

I think as well, when you are having down moments and thoughts, it's not time to start thinking about the holidays and what plans you'll be making, your just not in the correct frame of mind to contemplate them. Take some time to process and accept the down times, then work towards the other issues when your not quite so down.

You can do this!