Counseling conundrums

[iwantittowork]

Bunny, not sure I can offer advice on when you should tell him, based on my own sitch. What your suggesting sounds good, but you truly know your H, and how he may/may not react, so think you'll come to a good decision on when.

when does the sick feeling go away? I'm not feeling excited about this at all, the whole thing just feels wrong and surreal.

This one took me some time to get my head around too, but one thing that helped was to 'think' about the feelings.

It 'feels' wrong, because your emotions are dictating some of your thinking. In other words, think about your current relationship. Is it he one you want? Not from what I have read in your sitch, but you are still 'feeling' like your a family still, and separating is not something that comes from feeling like your part of a family.

However, you know what you need to do for you, and that is what will help get past these feelings. I have only been out for 14 days or so, and under much less anxiety, dread, fear, etc, etc, which allows you to focus more clearly on what you need for you.

Hope I am not rambling here, just hoping to offer some help. I was driving the moving truck away the day I moved, and saying to the person helping me at the same time that it just didn't 'feel' right at all, but that I knew for my own emotional and well being that I HAD to do it..

Hugs Bunny!