Hope and heartache

[mishka422]

Unfortunately, in D, no one comes out uscathed. Least of all our kids.

You and your stbxw will have to face the truth and the girls will have to make the adjustments.

How did I fail so badly as a husband that she'll throw away the girls' futures? That's my depressing thought for the day.

Back it up there buddy! You didn't fail. You know that. It's was a joint effort but she's the one who made the ultimate decision to destroy the family. Not your doing.

Make a new tradition. Something that doesn't cost a lot of money.

1)Leaf jumping! You should still be able to pull together a whole bunch of leaves for the girls to jump in, shouldn't you?

2)Take the girls to the thrift store and pick up inexpensive used dolls, dress them up extra nice, clean them up and go together to a homeless shelter to give to needy little girls. It would be a fun activity and teach the girls to be grateful for all they have. The earlier you can teach them about the less fortunate in our own country the better.

3)Again, go to the thrift store and get a bunch of old clothes to play dress up in. Put on a dress and a silly hat and have tea arties with them.

Be the best dad you can be. It will more than make up for missing summer camp or the American Girl store. You can always resume those activities once things settle down.

Being two individual one income families is not easy and the quality of life will never be the same......for any of you.

Also....as if I haven't been long winded enough........STOP BEING MR. NICE GUY AND PAYING MORE THAN IS REQUIRED. You are already paying the credit card bill she ran up. You have the girls more than 50% of the time but are paying her as if she has full time custody. WRONG! She wants this? She pays the consequences. The girls will be fine so don't say you are afraid what will happen to them if you reduce payment. Your stbxw might be selfish, but it doesn't seem as though she would purposely withhold necessities from the girls.

Yeah....I said it....necessities. Food, clothes, shelter. That is all they actually need. Anything more is the fluff that makes life a little nicer.

Sorry I 2x4'd ya, but it seems like you aren't standing up for yourself in the guise of 'being there for the girls'. If you don't stand up, your girls will learn by example to walk on you and anyone else in their lives that doesn't do what they want. Don't be a bad example for them, ok?

((((((((((((((((CTH)))))))))))))))))

Thought you would need a hug after the bashing.