Well, W and I had a generally good weekend with no R talk at all. W did some things this weekend that make it seem like she is planning to stay - at least for now. She signed us up for a Netflix account and ordered some home decor for our house. Not sure what to make of this yet. My W and I are the type that when we have a problem or an argument, the next day, we just let it go away and resume life as usual. Not that I think A is over by a long shot, I think even if my W ended A today, she would move forward and never mention it again. She does not like to discuss tough issues at all.
I have to think that if she is deciding to stay for now, maybe it is because the A is not so secret now. Also, somehow, I have not turned into an amorphous pile of goo either (although I was getting sticky and gooey there for a while!).
Have no idea where I go from this point except to really start trying to make some serious changes and continue my therapy. I know that we need to get a lot of stuff out in the open and worked out if our R is to improve but I am hesitant to discuss anything about R right the moment.
Any suggestions are most welcome. I know I see a lot on this forum that it is a good thing if the wayward is at home so they can see the changes but I don't want to encourage cake eating in any way.
