Well, I read through the thread in your signature link. I have to tell you, I've got mixed feelings about how you're doing. In that thread you seem to think you're failing because your husband is leaving and you're not finding a way to stop him (that was months ago, so I don't know how current this is.)
But, Poet, reading it through all at one go, it's clear that your husband thinks he has to leave. Maybe he's wrong, but that's what he believes. I don't see what you could have done about it in the past year. I believe he was at a point where he's certain he has to make a decision and go with it, even if it turns out to be the wrong decision in the end.
The more you let go in that thread, the better you did. So what are you doing now?
