Why on earth would you do the laundry for a man who is having sex with someone else and giving you the STD?
I think you're misunderstanding the concept of a "180." A "180" would be that if you were a woman who normally didn't go out and do stuff with female friends, you should do that now. Or if you were normally not very confident around your husband, then you should be. There's nothing in DBing that I'm aware of that says we are to try clear "pursuing" behavior to try to "win over" a cheating spouse in an active affair.
