Then, before I go for my morning run I check the keylogger. Busted her in some dirty IMing and plans to meet up with suspected guy. Well I didn't keep my cool. I went in her room (4:30am at this point so she's asleep). WTF?! I knew it...blah blah. Her getting defensive wanting to talk to me. I had to walk away and next thing I know I punched a few holes in the walls then proceeded to get my clothes on and she was panicking asking me why I was doing and that she needed to talk to me. At first she was probing what I saw exactly and I said I saw some old FB IMs on the screen about her making plans. Then once she knew I saw it all she caved. I was so mad. So betrayed but after the initial rush and her spilling her guts, I feel better now than I have I'm weeks.
Anyway, I didn't cry at all. It was different than before. I was the strongan for whatever reason at this point (after destroying the wall in my house and my hand gushing blood everywhere of course. Never would lay my hands on her. I'm a real man and don't F around like that).
Regardless of whether or not you would "lay hands on her", these should be a big blinking light that you have anger issues which need to be dealt with. You don't have to hit your wife to make her fearful of, and resent, you.
You need to work on yourself, first and foremost; you're not going to help your relationship if you react like this. "Real men" don't take their frustration out on themselves (and their house), either.
I suspect it wouldn't take much to push you over the edge. What if you came home and found her in bed with the OM? You can say "I didn't mean to" all you want, but you are a ticking time bomb.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
