Sandi and Puppy are you still out there? My H met my phone coach the other day. I am using Dottie. He really liked her so asked me if we could use her for our counseling to get through this. He wants to cancel our counseling with the person in our city and use Dottie. What do you all think about that? We started reading the book Surviving the Affair and it threw me right back into all the pain and dispair. I want so bad to move past this but when I am forced to deal with it, I get afraid that I can't get past the pain and just the thought of what my H has actually done. The fact he had a loving relationship with the OW and he was willing to leave us for her and how he took me to the brink of divorce. Also the visual images, I just can't get out of my head. When will all this stop? How do I get this behind me so I don't ruin the relationship my H is trying now so hard to save. He is bending over backwards to make this right, and the more I have to deal with it the less I think I can. Has anyone been in here in there feelings and thought process. We are one month away from celebrating our 20 year anniversary and I am almost at a point that I feel I will help the kids get through this if I decide I can't get past this and work out my marriage. I just don't see how to ever regain trust and to ever have a loving relationship again. We can't even have sex face to face and there are things I just won't engage in because he did it with the OW. How does that come back? Any words of encouragement?
