Newcomer, want to keep my hope alive!

[BigJohn]

Last week, STBXW didn't bother to check or pack properly for d8, and almost all the clothes in her bag were dirty. I washed them so she had clean clothes to get dressed in for school so I could drop them off, but I was shocked at that, but let it slide. This week, it's the same clothes that I packed back, and sent back, she never bothered to check for clean ones or if she had proper clothes to wear. I need to speak with STBXW about this.

Next, d8 tells me today that SS17 is the one that walked her around for trick or treat, STBXW stayed at home to 'pass out candy' I know there's nothing I can do about this, but that really ticked me off, d8's first holiday without dad around, and she sends her older brother around because she doesn't want to leave the house???? I need to probably let that go, but I don't understand that at all.

IWITW,

Thank you for the kind words on your prior post. Regarding the above, are you keeping a daily diary so you can document this stuff? Either your STBXW is going to take her parenting responsibilities seriously while she has your D8 her share of the time or she isn't. Perhaps if you document enough of these instances- especially after bringing them to you STBXW's attention and she does nothing- you may be able to have your custody with D8 modified or at the very least, STBXW admonished by the Court.