Keep Your Hands Offa My Mojo

[antlers]

Divorcing is about nothing if not about power -- that Walkaway, who has been feeling so powerless for so long, finally decides to take Ultimate Power.

So I started to act hard-core "as-if" -- as if I was already divorced. And I stopped caring about what WAW said and did and started to care about what I said and did.

Now TFT is often used as a negative term -- "that's just tit-for-tat," but it can actually be rather a successful strategy. It says, "cooperate and I'll cooperate; be a pain, and I'll be a pain." And what happens is that when you reciprocate pain-for-pain, WAS goes back to cooperate.

Accepting the brutal reality. Detachment. The Spiers Doctrine. This is absolutely essential.

There's no magic potion, no magic bullet, no set of words or promises or photographs or weeping kids or well-intentioned behaviors/declarations/stipulations/demonstrations that is touching enough, persuasive enough, impressive enough, or enough enough to make Walkaway stay. They're gone, Jack.

I can handle it. Divorce, I mean.

It's not the end of the world. The kids didn't spontaneously combust. The Earth didn't spin off of its axis. The Cubs didn't win the World Series. Armageddon has been held at bay yet again.

But above all I do know that I'll manage. I'll keep leading my children the best way I know how. I'll keep doing my job.

Be brave. Have courage. Walk your Path. Find your Mojo.

And no harm can come to you.

Peace.

These are more things that stick out to me. There's a lot of wisdom and truth in these words. Thanks.