Just a nudge here - when you moved the items, were you trying to 'fix' things? Don't fix! Let him work out his own stuff in his own time. When you moved the stuff, you changed whatever equilibrium he had, which required him to find a new place of equilibrium. If the things bother him that badly, let HIM move them. If they bother you, then you move them but let him know.
My sense is that people like your H have great suspicion of change. For them, change has always been a bad thing. SO when they come home and the physical environment has changed, they start wondering what's next, what's coming, what do I have to be prepared for? And for your H, even though it's unconscious, change in the home environment triggers the whole "Is another torrent of abuse coming?" It has nothing to do with you, or with the items. Foo leftovers.
Make sense?
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
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