The adventure chronicles

[AFWAW]

You are pursuing again. Doesn't work.
You gave her an opportunity when you asked her out. She refused.

Wasn't trying to pursue. In hindsight, I see that I was. Sounded like a pretty good offer to me.

This woman has demonstrated again and again she goes the exact opposite of what you say or want. Seems to me that would mean that you have to tell and show her you don't want her and that you are done. You aren't giving up the OW on facebook. End of story.

It's interesting that you say that as I thought back over the course of the marriage and I would say that is fairly accurate. And you're correct, I'm not giving up the OW on FB.

Her pattern then is to chase.... You seem to have a hard time really letting her chase. I don't understand why, since it seems to be the thing that works so well.

Everytime it seems like we're close to resolving anything, she starts with the demands and outlandish behavior again. Makes me believe that she doesn't want me, she just wants to control me.

You have a woman that takes the opposite position that you want or take.

Yep, seems to be the pattern.

Is it really worth the price?
I don't think this is really about the OW. IF you got rid of OW she would then say you didn't do it soon enough or who knows what. She takes the opposite stance. When people are like that then the best thing to do is to take the opposite stance of what you want because then they take the exact stance you were trying so hard for them to move to.

I don't think that it is worth the price. And you're right, it isn't about the OW. It's about her not having control of me and not having control over my daughter. Interesting solution that you present, take the opposite stance of what I want to get what I want--seems childlike, funny.

I don't see what you lose by getting tough and kicking her to the curb. She is trying hard to make you feel dumped. The dumper is always in charge. Be the dumper.

I hear you and I don't feel like I'm getting dumped but I think that she does. She's basically reversed everything to seem like I'm the bad guy/unreasonable one whereas she wants to come home and is putting stipulations on her coming home and I haven't asked her to come home. Kind of perplexing.

She called several times today but I did not answer her calls. I'm going to see my son get married on Saturday and my daughter told me that the wife asked if we were riding together? Nope, don't think I want to sit in the car with someone I'm divorcing for 13 hours.