Because I'd forgotten, you see, the Real Point of Divorce Busting. It isn't to Rebuild Your Marriage.
It's to Stop The Divorce.
What do I mean by that? The reason we do this whole thing is, in a very real sense, to turn back the clock to the minute before Walkaway drops the Bomb. Yes, it's to improve the stuff that led up to that minute, but the outcome of successful DB'ing isn't a renewed marriage -- it's the opportunity to renew the marriage.
This. Oh my god, this is such a perfect way to phrase it. Ever since I read this I've reconsidered my approach and my attitude facing this situation.
Every day that goes by with no talk of a D is a victory. Every day where we seem to be a little more relaxed around each other is a success.
If I look at it like that, then I can probably make it through the weeks -- months, even -- that it will take for us to heal.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
